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About the editors

This site has been developed to help other people who are thinking of coming out as gay and also to provide general support. We do not claim to be psychologists or experts in this field, but we HAVE BEEN THERE and DONE THAT and come out the other side happier. That has to count for something.

We have chosen the title of editor rather than author, because many of the ideas on this site have come from other people, and we have simply pieced them together in a readable format. We would also encourage you to write in with your own views and ideas, so that the site can continue to grow and be helpful.

 

Adam

Back in 2000 I decided to write all about being gay, coming out and the experiences I faced. This was partly to help anybody else who might be going through what I was going through back then… but another part of it was about expressing who I was and what I stood for.

It was November 1999 when I originally came out to my parents – the most terrifying thing I’ve ever done. Looking back on it now I feel it’s also the best thing I’ve done in my life so far. I feel more ‘me’ and no longer feel that I am ‘Living the lie’… but I suppose being out isn’t every body’s cup of tea. I’m now a student at University of Wolverhampton, hoping to move in with my long term same-sex partner of three years (love you babe :-) xx).

I wrote the original version of this site in 2000, but due to academic commitments, it got left behind and didn’t change much for two years. Then… in May 2002, an amazing whirlwind of enthusiasm and energy (known as Martin) swept the site away to new levels of added content and much improved accessibility. So at last, the site is becoming what I hoped it might all those years ago.

This site could be used by straight people who are struggling to understand the ‘gay’ concept, by gay people wanting to come out and looking for support and ideas or by gay people who want to share their support and ideas with other people. What Martin, others and myself have written here are our own beliefs and ideas. I hope we have covered as many areas of ‘coming out’ as possible, as well as providing a few other ideas and adding to the content all the time. I would also like to point out that this is by no means a step-by-step guide to coming out or how you should lead your life, it is written in the hope of conveying what it is like to tell people of your sexuality and maybe to give some useful tips.

Central to all my thoughts on this subject is that the only acceptance you need in life is the acceptance of yourself. Be what you want and enjoy your life. Be happy and live as yourself. A fitting quote is perhaps found in the film ‘Braveheart’ – [Mel Gibson mmmmm.]: "Every man dies… But not every man really lives."

 

Martin

In September of 2002 I came out to my friends and family. I spent 29 years of my life hiding who I was. I was ashamed and scared to admit the "real me" to anyone. I kept dating women because I was convinced that I could hide and ignore the fact that I was gay to myself. It had the opposite effect. With each woman that I was with it only assured me more and more that I was gay. I was not sexually attracted to women.

After I broke up with my last girlfriend, I said to myself, "Can you really put yourself through this again?" The answer I came up with was "No." Now the real decision, "Do I admit to others or do I live the lie?"

In searching around the Internet I found some very useful information on helping myself come out. I discovered that there is a world full of people that are just like me.

I came out to my friends and family and I am much happier about who I am. No more lying to people. No more fear of people suspecting. Now, I am me and happy.

In reading this site, I approached Adam and offered to help in bringing the site up to date. And to add more information for people all over the world who are going through the same things I did. I want to give back and help those who helped me all these years and help people realize that they are not alone and that there are other people who have the same feelings that they do.

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March 24, 2004